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Achieving Forgiveness

In 2005, I hit a very real wall. I had gradually become less and less able to try new things in my life, and as a result my life had contracted around me to the point that I was stuck, broke, dissatisfied and profoundly frustrated. One morning it all hit the fan and I sat …

The Art of Appreciative Conversations

Appreciative questioning and listening When I think of the concept of appreciative questioning/listening, an image comes to me of a group of us sitting around a campfire. The fire sits at the center of a circle which, when viewed from above, is organized into slices like a pizza. There are as many slices as there …

Principles For Our Human Adventure

Honor yourself Go at your own pace; You are responsible for your own safety (and comfort). Speak up. Help us understand you. Be nimble. Expand your ability to anticipate needs/challenges, opportunities and possibilities. Notice the relief as you exchange trying to be right for feeling comfortable in your own skin. Honor others Know when to …

Types of Fun

You hear a lot of people these days spout the popular notion, “If it’s not fun, you shouldn’t be doing it!” or “Life is supposed to be fun!” Well, I would actually agree with these statements, with one caveat – that we get clear about the definition of “fun.” The dictionary gives us: Enjoyment, amusement, …

Re-enchantment

I have a vision of us humans as magical creatures covered with beautiful, powerful antennae. Because of the times we have come through, our antennae are kind of flattened. We’ve trained ourselves to keep them under cover because the world as it has been hurts them. I believe we are in the process of learning …

The Magic of Appreciative Engagement

In the last ten years of coaching and living, I have come to see that a magic key to the kingdom is appreciation, especially appreciative interaction or engagement. I see this as a very different energy than gratitude, and it’s worth exploring and investigating on its own. When I teach about the power of appreciative …

A Commitment to Being Fully Alive

I am fiercely determined and committed To being in right relation with life, And with MY life, So I am living the truth of my soul, passing on what matters most to me.   What matters most to me is Being a full participant in life. Open to the wild and unbridled delight of being …

How Trees Grow in Rocks

This is a field note that I wrote back in 2000, for the Montana Natural History Museum. I decided to publish it here since I get so many amazing photos of trees growing in rocks, and remain fascinated and inspired by the process. Hope you are as well! I spent a recent afternoon sitting on …

Exploring “I’m sorry”

  What does “I am sorry” really mean? That I am guilty, that it’s my fault, that I should have done something, that something’s wrong, that I should be able to make it better?   Or can it just be a surrender into the acknowledgement that I am sorry along with being happy? Sorry about …

Please don’t “Fake it ‘til you make it”

If I am at war with anything (which I’m generally not, but this one does get me going!) it is the idea of “fake it until you make it.” I would say the polar opposite: Get real.   We are carrying a boatload of cultural anxiety which is both caused by and causing us to …