What is Trust?
Trusting yourself is your first step into the bold life that you are truly here to live.
What is trust if you dont trust your self? It’s easy to take the concept of trust sort of for granted. Are you like me? I used to think of trust, if I thought about it much at all, as being vaguely the same thing as honesty, and let it go at that.
Then I read The Speed of Trust by Stephen M. R. Covey, who identifies four key components of trust – intent & integrity, and capabilities & results. Using his concepts about trust to analyze my personal results, I saw how closely trust correlates with powerful results.
In my work, which at the end of the day is about helping people love and trust themselves, I found a common thread: many people claim to be very trusting, yet are getting poor results in their lives. Especially those following the Law of Attraction, who believe they are operating in trust. They generally have high intentions and are very capable. It all looks good, except… they are discouraged by their results.
One key ingredient: Action.
The bridge between intent and integrity is ACTION. Integrity is high intent in action. There’s a reason they call it “acting with integrity.” The link between capabilities and results is, again, ACTION. Results are capabilities put into action.
I realized that without action, what looks and feels like trust is actually resignation, which is the coat that depression wears.
While trusting yourself is your first step into the bold life that you are truly here to live.
Tips for Trusting Enough to Take Action
So the question is – What is trust to you? Do you trust yourself, or trust the universe, enough to take that next scary step when you are feeling inspired, even if the path is not yet clear? If you do not, what can you do about it? Here are some tips that might help:
1. Connect to your big WHY.
Know the heartfelt reason you want something more than you are afraid of it.
2. Develop a new relationship with fear, and let it energize you.
EVERY time you reach for something new, beyond what you have done before, it will be scary. Take that in as a good sign that you are growing and stretching. Breathe into your fear and turn it into excitement.
3. Build your ACTION muscles.
Celebrate the smaller opportunities in your life when you have moved through fear. Redefine yourself as a courageous person. If you look for it, you will find the evidence that this is true.
4. Name the fear.
In your mind, make it smaller. Make what you WANT bigger and brighter.
5. See yourself successful.
Using your imagination, step into a moment ten minutes after you have done this scary thing. Feel how GREAT you feel to have done it. Connect to and build up those feelings. Let them carry you forward through your fear.
6. Quit comparing.
No one else can do what you are here to do. No one. So do it your way, and have fun with it. And if you can’t get past comparing, at least compare yourself to someone at your same stage. Every master was once a beginner.
7. Refer back to #1 every step of the way.
I will leave you with one of my favorite thoughts ever, about Boldness and, what is trust:
"Until one is committed, there is hesitancy, the chance to draw back– Concerning all acts of initiative (and creation), there is one elementary truth that ignorance of which kills countless ideas and splendid plans: that the moment one definitely commits oneself, then Providence moves too. All sorts of things occur to help one that would never otherwise have occurred. A whole stream of events issues from the decision, raising in one's favor all manner of unforeseen incidents and meetings and material assistance, which no man could have dreamed would have come his way. Whatever you can do, or dream you can do, begin it. Boldness has genius, power, and magic in it. Begin it now."
Have fun, and trust yourself!